“If you want the doctor’s help, you must reveal the wound”
Some of the deepest wounds are not marked on our bodies but in our hearts. We tuck away our disordered emotions into our inner-life until they explode into our outer-life. When we blow up and so probably speak rashly, we cut others to pieces:
There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts. (Prov 12:18a)
And when we wound others, we hurt ourselves.
The wicked are filled with trouble (Prov 12:21)
And yet: when we speak without rashness and confide in a close friend, we find gladness and healing:
Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad. (Prov 12:25)
The tongue of the wise brings healing. (Prov 12:18b)
Although Proverbs 12 does not make this exact point, “a good word” or the “The tongue of the wise” will generally come to a wounded person, when that person reveals the wound to a friend.
“If you want the doctor’s help,” writes Boethius in the voice of Wisdom, “you must reveal the wound.”